I’ve been a mother for 27 years. A parent for one.
Is that because I’ve aged and changed? Yes. Because I know myself better than ever? Yes. Because I’ve been told I am a “good enough mother”. Yes.
But it is also because just recently I have all three adult children living with me. Whoo hoo! Not.
Before, when they were kids, I knew what it meant to be a mother. Love, support, guidance and discipline. Setting boundries, helping with problems. Being a parent to an adult? 3 adults? With very different needs, wants, abilities, coping skills, personalities. Being a parent has recently become a whole new ball game. They are their whole selves now.
Being a mother. Self explanatory. Pretty much. A parent, not so much. More discussing, more teaching, more problem solving.
The same amount of love and affection. Yes. Discipline? No..reasoning through mistakes, guidance. Yes!..
More like a guidance counsellor.
This is a whole unchartered world for me. I think it’s an advantage to be an “older” parent at this stage. They need you as much as ever but for your wisdom you’ve attained, your perspective.
So I guess I have recently become a guidance counsellor/mother/parent/confidante. Still needing to be chief cook and bottle washer. (Working on that one)😀Not for a minute did I think I would be doing this at my age. Kids never leave home anymore. This is a whole new skill set to obtain and master.
Its feels right to be here, now. Is it extremely challenging? You bet. Maybe I could move out or like go to respite facility or something. Or start a new program like a spa day for parents of adult children still living at home. Seriously. Consider this a patented idea!!